Delaying Sex After Marriage, Greatest Rewards.

With the upward trend of cohabitation as a trial marriage, couples who wait to have sex until marriage are quickly becoming a minority in western countries. 
The general consensus is that exploration of sexual compatibility before the lifelong commitment would lead to a better marriage and by not doing one's marriage will be adversely impacted. If such belief were true, does it mean saving sex for marriage would lead to a worse marriage? 
A study in the American Psychological Association's Journal of Family Psychology indicates that waiting after marriage not only does not harm a relationship, it actually provides many benefits. 
 A statistical analysis showed the following benefits enjoyed by couples who waited until marriage compared to those who started having sex in the early part of their relationship 

Relationship stability was rated 22 percent higher. Relationship satisfaction was rated 20 percent higher Sexual quality of the relationship was rated 15 percent better, Communication was rated 12 percent better. 
The longer participants waited to be sexual, the more stable and satisfying their relationships were once they were married. Gender had a relatively small influence on the dependent variables. 
For the other dependent variables, the participants who waited to be sexual until after marriage had significantly higher levels of communication and sexual quality compared to the other two sexual timing groups. So even for couples who didn't wait until marriage, the benefits of delaying sexual involvement in their relationship still can be felt, although they were about half as strong. 
"Most research on the topic is focused on individuals' experiences and not the timing within a relationship," said lead study author Dean Busby. 

 "There's more to a relationship than sex, but we did find that those who waited longer were happier with the sexual aspect of their relationship," 

Busby added. "I think it's because they've learned to talk and have the skills to work with issues that come up." 
Sociologist Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas at Austin, who was not involved with this research, read the study and shared his take on the findings. 

 "Couples who hit the honeymoon too early – that is, prioritize sex promptly at the outset of a relationship – often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and trustworthy," 

said Regnerus, author of Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying*, a book forthcoming from Oxford University Press. 

Because religious belief often plays a role for couples who choose to wait, Busby and his co-authors controlled for the influence of religious involvement in their analysis. Busby concludes, 

"With the sample in this study it is clear that the longer a couple waited to become sexually involved the better their sexual quality, relationship communication, relationship satisfaction, and perceived relationship stability was in marriage, even when controlling fora variety of other variables such as the number of sexual partners, education, religiosity, and relationship length." 

The result of this study should give one more reason to delay sex until marriage, since it benefits people who do so, regardless of religiosity.

References:
1. Brigham Young University. "Couples who delay having sex get benefits later, study suggests." EurekAlert. (accessed April 12, 2014). 

2. Dean M. Busby, Jason S. Carroll, and Brian J. Willoughby. "Compatibility or Restraint? The Effects of Sexual Timing on Marriage Relationships," Journal of Family Psychology 24, no. 6 (2010): 766–774. doi:10.1037/a0021690

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ATTEND CHARIS FAMILY 's SUNDAY BUSINESS SCHOOL on how to start your business with little seed capital.

Friends, this is a special invitation  to you as we host another edition of SUNDAY BUSINESS SCHOOL.‎ Have you ever wondered how you can start your business with little seed capital? Have you ever thought you had a capital problem? Are you waiting for your big break to come? Have you been looking for a white collar job to no avail? 

The answer to these questions will be unfolded as we host AYOWALE FATOKI, an ex-banker and a graduate of mathematics who started his business with a seed capital of N40,000. Yes, you read correctly- N40,000 in modern day Nigeria. He will share his story. He will inspire us. He will recount his challenges. He will tell us how he weathered the storm. And he will share his success tips with us. There will also be a Question & Answer Session.

Maybe, just maybe, this is the push you've been waiting for. Attendance is absolutely free but there are limited seats available. We will also serve light refreshments. 
Date: Sunday July 27th, 2014
Time:  9am prompt 
Venue: CHARIS FAMILY INTERNATIONAL CHURCH, 62A, BESIDE UNION HOMES, OPEBI, IKEJA. 



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Free This Saturday? Come Let's Walk to Great Future

This Saturday, July 12, it's the KO Readers are Leaders Destiny Walk happening at Rowe Park, Yaba. KO Readers and Leaders Destiny Walk is a literary awareness companpaign to re-awaken  and promote the reading culture in our society amongst the younger generation initiated by Kola Oyeyemi of MTN communications and Ignite Africa.

We believe that the future and success of any nation is dependent on the younger generation. Leadsers are not born, they are developed. Reading to acquire purposeful knowledge is one of the most effective ways to create good leaders. 

This project features thousands of young people walking to make  a clarion call that a nation where the there is no reading culture, the people are ignorant. 

The walk is FREE for everyone. It's a day of sensitization and great fun. Renowned entertainment superstars to perform live
DATE: Saturday July 12, 2014
VENUE: Rowe park, Yaba
TIME: 8:30am

There is a lots of freebies to be giving out. 

INTERSTED IN PARTICIPATING?

Text D, your name, email address and phone number to 08027384503

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The Future Africa Awards & Summit unveils new identity, new website .

"The brand has always focused on evolving alongside Young Africa."
The Central Working Committee for The Future Africa Awards & Summit, TFAAS, on Tuesday announced its new identity, and also unveiled its new logo and web portal.
"The brand has always focused on evolving alongside Young Africa," said Mfon Ekpo, a member of the committee, and Fellow with President Barack Obama's Young African Leaders Initiative. "After a year of work with our global brand support team, we are excited to unveil this new identity which puts the focus on our African reach, and reflects our commitment to a bold new vision for the continent's future."
The new logo has Africa in its centre, outlined to reflect a guided vision. Its strength is in its simplicity and clarity. This simplicity is also mirrored in the official web portal www.thefutureafrica.com/awards.
The 2014 edition was launched in May during the World Economic Forum on Africa; expanded in scope to The Future Africa Awards & Summit, a 2-day ideas-fest, where the continent's most influential leaders and institutions with portfolio on youth will gather to chart immediate action-points for expansion of jobs and opportunities, as well as good governance and citizen engagement.
The committee, in May, also unveiled the 'Have you met Africa?' campaign with brand ambassadors Ashish J. Thakkar (Rwanda), Omotola Jolade-Ekeinde (Nigeria), Chude Jideonwo (Nigeria), Jason Njoku (Nigeria) and Saran KabanJones (Liberia).
TFAAS 2014 is supported by Microsoft, the U.S. Consulate and the Tony Elumelu Foundation. Official Media Partners are EbonyLife TV, AfricaMagic, Bloomberg TV Africa, Ventures Africa, and Y! Africa. Official Online Partners are MemeBurn, BellaNaija, PREMIUM TIMES and 360nobs.
The official bloggers for 2014 are Linda Ikeji, Omojuwa, LadunLiadi, Olorisupergal, Ameyaw, NigeriaNewsDesk and GidiTraffic. Country partners are The Cable, LadunLiadi Blog, The Trent, Information Nigeria and News Wire.
Cool FM is the host radio station. Channels Television is the host TV station.
For more information, visit @TFAAfrica on Twitter or the website www.thefutureafrica.com/awards.
The official hash tags for 2014 are #ThisIsAfrica and ‎#TFAAS2014. 



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ABORTION: CAUSES, METHODS AND CONSEQUENCES

Abortion is an operation or other intervention to end a pregnancy by removing an embryo or fetus from the womb. It is the deliberate termination of a human pregnancy or the natural expulsion of a fetus from womb before it is able to survive independently.
Abortion is not just the killing of fetus; it is the murder of a living thing – your child.

It's hard to believe that we actually murder Children. And why? Mostly for the convenience's sake. We don't want to be bothered by emotional trauma or physical discomfort or public humiliation.

Look at some children around you today. This is who you are killing when you get abortion – not things, not even masses of tissue with potential. We are talking about lives with souls.

Did you know that at about:
18 days – the mouth of the baby begin to open
24 days – arms and legs begin to take shape
42 days – fingers are forming on the hand
67 days – hair is now growing
75 days – the baby is seeing.

If a miracle like this is growing inside you, how could killing it even be an option? In his book "Sex: It's worth waiting for", Greg Speck says: "Do you know what I wish for? I wish people had a little window to the womb. If people could only see babies in the womb, babies that are connected to their mothers, they wouldn't so quickly take a life away from them".

At least 50 percent of all individuals who go into an abortion clinic never come out alive. They say it's a safe procedure for mothers, but it's deadly for your baby.

CAUSES OF ABORTION
1. Fear for financial difficulty to raise the child
2. Fear to what people or parents might think or say
3. Fear to the 9 months of pregnancy and to the pain during the labor
4. Health problems
5. Rape
6. Hormonal contraceptives and so many more
7. Unwanted pregnancy: Let me emphasize that I don't believe any pregnancy is unwanted for singles because if you don't want it, you wouldn't involve yourself in sex whether protected or not. The only means I believe, of not getting pregnant is by staying chaste.

The main problem of abortion is psychological and is fear.

Although, some of these causes might look genuine but it is never a reason why you should kill your own baby or why you should advice someone to terminate a life.

METHODS OF ABORTION
Would you like to know what your child goes through if he/she is aborted? (I didn't use "it" because; it is meant for animals but your child is human). Here is some info, but let me first warn you that this isn't pretty, and reading about these methods could cause some emotional trauma, especially if you or someone you know has already had an abortion. If you know you might not be able to stand the pain reading these methods of abortion could bring, I would advice you shouldn't bother going far, you can stop at this point.

Ways to do abortion

1. SUCTION ASPIRATION: The abortionist first paralyzes the cervix (womb opening). He then inserts a hollow plastic tube with knife – like tip into the uterus. The tube is connected to a powerful with a suction force 29 times more powerful than a home vacuum cleaner. The procedure tears the baby's body into pieces and hose the frequency jerks as pieces of the baby become lodged. The placenta is then cut from the inner wall of the uterus and the scraps are sucked out into a bottle. As the baby head can't pass through the womb, it is introduced into the womb an instrument that compresses the little head and then takes it out.
2. DILATATION AND CURETAGE: This is similar to the suction aspiration except that the abortionist inserts a curette (a hook – shaped steel knife) into the uterus, which is used to cut the baby into pieces. The baby is then smashed and scraped from the wall of the uterus out through the cervix and discarded. As you can imagine, bleeding is usually profuse.
3. DILATATION AND EVACUATION: This method is usually performed after the third month. Instead of the hook – shaped knife usually used in D&C abortions, a pair forceps (just like the shape of pliers) is inserted into the womb to grasp part of the fetus. The teeth of the forceps twist and tear the bones of the unborn child. This process is repeated until the fetus is totally dismembered and remove. Usually the spine must be snapped and the skull crushed in order to remove them.
4. SAALINE INJECTION (SALT POISONING): This procedure is usually done after four months. Why? Because a certain amount of fluid needs to have built up in the sac around the baby. A long needle is thrust through the abdomen into the sac. The abortionist will suck out some of the fluid and then inject a salt solution. The baby will swallow this. 
The child starts to jerk and kick, suffering severely because they are literally being burned alive by the solution inside the womb. If there ever ought to be a safe, protected place, it should be the womb. I wish both parents had to watch this procedure.
It will take the child more than an hour to die. If the woman has been pregnant for five months or longer, she will feel the baby fighting and kicking to live.
Usually within 24 hours, she will go into labor and deliver this tortured baby, dead, with skin burned away. But there is another problem. After all that suffering, the baby may still be born alive. Imagine wanting to live that much. The abortionist will sometimes take this poor burned baby and place it in a corner unattended to. Many times they will place a towel over the baby's face to induce suffocation, so that the baby will die. I think in other situations we would call this murder.
5. PROSTAGLADIN ABORTION: This is a hormone that induces labor. This form of abortion uses chemicals which cause the uterus to contract intensely, pushing out the developing baby. The contractions are more violent than normal natural contractions, so the baby dies from trauma of delivery. Many, however, have also been born alive.
6. RU – 486: This is a drug that produces an abortion taken after the mother misses her period. Its effect is to block a crucial hormone that causes the uterine lining to no longer provide food, fluid, and oxygen to the baby. Without this hormone the baby can't survive. When the abortion is complete the mother will see a tiny blob of tissue – her baby. (Note that RU – 486 is not a contraceptive because it does not prevent fertilization or implantation. It is used only after the mother missed her period and the baby is at least two to three weeks old).

I hope you see how sick and wrong is it to abort your baby. This is like a medieval torture. Notice that I do not call these people that perform abortions doctors, because doctor takes a pledge to protect life, and these people make a living by killing babies. (They are murderers). 

CONSEQUENCES OF ABORTION
Physical Consequences:
1. Drugs containing RU – 486 can cause liver damage, kidney destruction, heart muscle compromise, pulmonary failure, gastrointestinal pathology, and bone marrow suppression. It has also been reported to cause loss of speech function, strokes, and convulsion.
2. An increase risk of breast, cervical, ovarian and liver cancer
3. Complications, such as uterine perforation, cervical laceration, and placenta previa can not only cause very severe problems, but they can also lead to problems in future pregnancies, such as miscarriages, premature births, fetal deaths and children born with handicaps because any problem or change with a woman's reproductive organ may affect the development of her children.
4. Infection, including pelvic inflammatory disease, occurs in 30% of abortions; if not stopped soon enough, they can leave a woman barren.
5. Tremendous increase in the level of promiscuity and sexually transmitted diseases
6. Up to 127% risk for premature births in subsequent pregnancies; the rate is higher with multiple abortions
7. Death

Psychological consequences
1. Diminished respect for human life
2. Denial, guilt, sadness, and grieving at the death of the aborted baby that would be a woman's natural, feminine feelings and emotions
3. Psychological reactions like alcoholism, smoking, drug abuse, sexual addictions, and self destructive behavior.
4. Post abortion syndrome: depression to suicide or attempted suicide
5. Overwhelming feelings of regret or guilt during later pregnancies
6. Flashback and nightmares
7. Destruction of trust between men and women
8. Increased rates of divorce, domestic violence and child abuse
9. feelings of guilt or regret among fathers

To read more about methods of abortion, visit www.lifesitenews.com/abortiontypes/ or www.anael.org/english/abortion/ 

DEDICATION
[To every girls, ladies, women who had one time or the other commit abortion
To every ladies who are thinking of getting an abortion
To every guys who see abortion as the best option of not being a teenage father
To every abortionist who takes lives without having a rethink
To every parents who advice, suggest, support abortion for themselves or their children]


Write Up, Courtesy of
Adedoyin Oluwafemi Matthew
Visionary,
Maximum Impact Network, 
we vote for Sexual Purity.



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Separating The Business From You. By Strive Masiyiwa

When most entrepreneurs start their businesses, they are usually very small, and even informal. They work hard, usually with the support of family and friends, without any proper salary structures, or regular payments. Sometimes when they borrow money, they are forced to secure such loans using personal assets, like their home.
This is common around the world.

It can also create serious problems for you, if there is a downturn in the economy, or if something goes wrong.
I once went through a very painful experience, when one of my businesses, was forced into bankruptcy. Some of my creditors took me to court, and were given orders to attach the assets of the business, as well as my own personal assets, including our family home, and car. They were all auctioned. It was a bitter, learning experience, which I would not wish on anyone....
So what do you do?

To begin with, do not operate your business informally. Register it properly, as a "limited liability" company, with the assistance of a lawyer. Make sure you purchase a of copy of your country's company code. Every self respecting business person, should have a copy of their country's company code.
Under that company code, your business is a "legal personality", separate from you. Make sure you fully understand what that means. And please don't bombard me, with questions about it; its your homework.
Since we first talked about it, you should be working with a Book keeper, who helps you with your accounting records. And if you are bigger, hire a full time accountant.
You should have a lawyer that you meet regularly, at least once a month, to talk things over.

Always, always, always.... Know your rights, under the law. And do not be afraid to enforce them, even when dealing with a government department.
Make sure you have a relationship with a professional lawyer, who makes time for you, and enjoys business matters, rather than criminal law.
With your book keeper, sit down and agree how much salary, every person gets. With the assistance of your legal advisor, draw up a simple contract of employment for everyone, including yourself, and your relatives, that are employed in the business.

Be modest in what you pay yourself, and do not exceed it.
.... It does not matter how small your business, or social enterprise is: do it, otherwise you will never grow into a big organisation.
Think of your business, like a it were a "person", quite separate from you. Starting a business, and growing it, is rather like having a child, and raising it to adulthood. It goes through exactly the same phases:
there is a baby phase, an infant phase, school going phase, adolescent phase, young vibrant adult, and mature phase. The successful entrepreneur, is one who ultimately understands each phase, and helps the business to grow into a healthy, and independent adult, who can also take care of its parents.

Finally, be sure that you meet your obligations as a citizen. Pay your taxes, both corporate and personal. It does not matter, that some of the biggest guys that you know don't pay taxes: shame on them... You are better than that, because you are a "nation builder".
End.

Author : Strive Masiyiwa


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Nonye Okolie,

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Gulder Ultimate Search 2014: THE MISSION

This year's entry is free and the selection process will be rigorous with a national spread. 
The internet-based application process commenced on 1 July and will end on 31 July. 

"There will be a final screening exercise in Lagos to produce the final set of 12 young-adult, strong, intelligent, able-bodied men and women who are determined to go the extra mile to achieve success. 
And the reward at the end of the search as usual will be fame and fortune"
 Vindah said. The brave individual who emerges as the winner and 'Ultimate Man' will be rewarded with a cash prize of N10 million, along with a brand new Ford Explorer SUV. 
The other 11 participants will not go home empty-handed, as they will get various cash prizes ranging from N3 million for the first-runner-up to N1million for the 12th placed contestant. There will be an additional cash prize of N1million for the last girl standing during the search. 

In addition to the cash prize, the brave lady will also drive home a brand new vehicle.


All intending participants must register online:
registration.gulderultimatesearch.tv 
which is accessible via the official website - www.gulderultimatesearch.tv 
or through our Facebook page - www.facebook.com/GulderNigeria. 

Registration is free and only registered applicants can participate. 
All information on the web registration form must be completed. Upon completion, the applicant will receive an email indicating a satisfactory entry.
Terms and Conditions apply. 
Registration is open to young adults between the ages of 21 and 30 years. 

Registration closes 31st July, 2014. 
All successful applicants must go through the screening phases: 
 (1) regional screening; 
 (2) psychological test 
 (3) medical examination 
 (4) Interview. 

 Successful screening is required for each phase and is a necessary condition for the progression to the next phase.
Regional Screening venues are: 
 Awka; Benin; Lagos and Port Harcourt. 

Dates to be announced. 
Nigerian Breweries Plc is not responsible for transportation, accommodation and other logistics of participants during the screening/selection phase.

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