WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SEX

Sex is:

 a covenant exchange of two people in marriage environment for the purpose of unity and procreation.

  the difference between a male and female gender 

 physical, psychological, spiritual and emotional in nature 

 Risky; you can get pregnant, get a sexually transmitted disease, have your heart broken or ego bruised, or feel let down and disappointed when it is over

  a process; you only get one chance to loose your virginity 

 good 

 meant for Re – Creation (Creating new offspring) Sex is NOT: 

 a way to make somebody love you or make a commitment to you 

 a test of your love for your partner

 a measure of how mature or grown up you are 

 a good way to assert independence

  recreation (Refreshment of the mind and body after work) or a leisure activity 

 an event; it don't just happen (unless you are a victim rape) 

 commitment or intimacy. If sex create commitment, then those prostitutes should have a lot of commitment from the different people who sleep with them and still get paid. Facts you must know 

 God is the originator of sex. He made us sexual being. Therefore, it is normal to feel sexual urge. If sometimes you feel like having sex, don't think something is wrong with you because it is normal to feel so except you are just a pack of wood that doesn't have blood, water, feelings, emotion etc.  In his book, 'Sex Straight talk', Sam Adeyemi told a story of a young man who became born again and was zealous for God. He found out to his dismay that as prayerful and spiritual as he was, he still was sexually aroused, and was being tormented, so he said, by thoughts of women. One day he locked himself in his room and sliced off his penis, because he took literally what Jesus said that if your hand would hinder you from getting to heaven, cut it off. The guy didn't envisage the grave consequences of his action. He was alone in the room and was soon bleeding profusely with pain. Afraid he might die suddenly, he screamed for attention. Neighbours got him quickly to hospital where newsmen found him. "Why did you do this to yourself," they asked him. His sexual thoughts were troubling him from serving God, he said. This is a case of a man trying to deny his sexuality. We shouldn't deny who we are – Sexual Beings. Attraction between the opposite sexes is natural and normal. Rather than deny or pretend about our sexuality, we should accept it and then learn what to do to manage it. 

 Your most important sex organ is your mind. If you gain control of your mind, then you have gained control of your life 

 The quantity of sex does not make a relationship valid. It is the quality of the relationship that makes sex valid. 

 Sex is powerful but not impossible to control‎ 

 The most appropriate occasion to have sex for the first time is not when you are matured but when you are married 

 Sex is not meant for boys and girls, it is meant for men and women in a marriage environment 

 Unless you want to get pregnant, you must practice abstinence.

Don't let anyone tell you that with BIRTH CONTROL you cannot get pregnant – that's a lie. The only sure way of not getting pregnant is SELF CONTROL. The most popular mentioned and used birth control tool is condom. 

To listen to sex educators you would think condom is a safe and effective way to prevent pregnancy and STDs.

Everyday sex education classes promote condoms as a means of safe sex or at least safer sex. But the research on condoms provides no such guarantee. It's no longer news that condoms are only 87 percent effective in preventing pregnancy and 69 percent effective in reducing the risk of HIV infection. And according to a study in the 1992 Family Planning Perspectives, 15 percents of married couples who use condoms for birth control end up with an unplanned pregnancy within the first year and 36 percent within the second year. Again also, I posted on my facebook wall few months ago about a guy who called me he was at one of our event early this year, where I spoke on SAFE SEX. He called and said, "I started having sex at 18 and now I'm 27, I just called to let you know that I agree with the fact that condoms are not safe; my three living kids and two aborted babies were all conceived while I was using condoms".

Then what is safe about birth control? 

  The only protection against Sexually transmitted diseases is living the abstinence lifestyle 

 You can get pregnant or catch Sexually transmitted infections the very first time you have sex, even if you use protection 

 Nobody has ever died from not having sex. I have yet to read the obituary section of the newspaper or an obituary bill which says "Gone Too soon, Matthew Adedoyin, 1987 – 2011, died of virginity. Yet there are young people dying because they bought into the lie that they can't be expected to control their sexual urge. 

 Sex is a progression. It doesn't just happen unless you are a victim of rape

 The more time you spend listening to music with sexually degrading lyrics, the more likely you are to initiate intercourse and other sexual activities. Finally, the best motivational and inspirational book I've ever read – The bible stated it clear that our body is the temple of the living God. Therefore It must not be defiled which means Pre – Marital Sex (Fornication) and Extra – Marital Sex (Adultery) is not just sin against God, it is also a sin against your body.  

 Thanks. 

 Stay Chaste. 

'Abstinence lifestyle pays' It keeps you from safe STDs, unwanted pregnancy, emotional and psychological trauma, problems, bruised ego, broken heart, abortion etc] 

By: Adedoyin Matthew

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"Non nobis solum nati sumus"
(Not for ourselves alone are we born)

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University of Sussex Support Scholarships 2014 - Be exceptional!

Are you exceptional? Are you interested in expanding your horizons by studying for an undergraduate or a post graduate degree in the UK? Then the University of Sussex Support Scholarship is for you.

The British Council in Nigeria on behalf of the University of Sussex presents a unique scholarship opportunity for two students. This award is tenable at the University for the academic year commencing in September 2014. This is a great opportunity for exceptional students who have aspirations of obtaining an international degree to do so.

To qualify for this scholarship individuals have to take part in our competition, have applied to and hold an offer of a place at Sussex.

Interested applicants are requested to read carefully through criteria and respond by the given deadlines. Find more information about the scholarship criteria on the British Council Nigeria website by clicking this link -http://www.britishcouncil.org.ng/sussex-scholarship-2014

Please find attached the 2014 University of Sussex Support Scholarship application form, you can also find the criteria on the form.

 Any questions about the scholarship or the University can be sent to us via email at eduk.enquiries@ng.britishcouncil.org

 

Deadline for submission is 27^th June, 2014.

 

Don't miss this great opportunity!

 

Good luck with your application.

 

 Regards,

 The Education UK Project team

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SCHOLARSHIP OFFER AT THE UNIVERSITY OF WEST LONDON PROGRAMMES WITH INTERNSHIPS

The University of West London invites students from Nigeria to compete for two bursaries worth £5000 each. The Nigerian Ambassador Scholarship recognises and provides financial support for outstanding Nigerian students and will be available to two Nigerian students who are starting either an undergraduate or postgraduate programme at The University of West London in September 2014. The PG Integrated masters comes with internship.

 

Scholarship application process:

You can apply for our Nigerian Ambassador Scholarships by completing the scholarship application form (158 kb).

• The deadline for applications for September 2014 is 5pm on Sunday 22^nd of June.

Please save this form to your computer before completing it. Once completed, please save and e-mail your completed application form to int.app@uwl.ac.uk. If you are unable to save a completed version of the form, you may not have the required software. If this is the case, please print off the form and scan the completed application to int.app@uwl.ac.uk.

You will also need to provide:

• academic transcripts including certificate
• WAEC certificate with a minimum of C6 in English
• a personal statement explaining why you are suitable for the course
• two professional and / or academic references
• a copy of your passport
• copies of any other supporting documents.

For detailed entry requirements for Nigerian students, please click here:http://www.uwl.ac.uk/sites/default/files/Departments/International/Web/Nigeria_WEB.pdf

 

Eligibility and Award Criteria:

Students are eligible to apply for this scholarship in any of the following academic departments: Art, Design & Media, Business, Computing & Technology, Hospitality & Tourism, Law, Music, Nursing & Midwifery and Psychology, Social Work and Human Science. The scholarship will be evaluated based on the following criteria:

·         Academic Merit

·         Completed application form

·         Short essays required in the application form

 

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The Ugly Side of a Perfectionist

Growing up, we all want to be accepted. For some of us, we work hard at a project, making it perfect in our minds, and when we receive praise for it, we associate acceptance with perfectionism. From that point jon, we strive to be perfect in all that we do and in all that we are.
But perfectionism isn't a good thing most of the time – in fact it's detrimental.

Perfection is Subjective
Everyone's definition of perfection is different. For this reason, trying to be perfect in everything you do is futile. Take for example a project at work. You work hard at making it perfect. But it's only perfect to you. You have someone else review the work you did and they have some criticisms and suggestions for change. But how can this be you wonder, after all, it's perfect!
Many perfectionists don't take criticism very well. This is because they tend to see the things they do as being perfect. When someone else doesn't agree, they take offense to it.

Wasted Time
Related to the example cited above is wasted time. Thinking about the project, you most likely spent countless hours on it, making it perfect. When others review it and see things that need change, you have to go back and work on the project again. Had you simply made the project "good enough" you could have saved yourself hours.
For those non-perfectionists reading this, the term "good enough" might not sit well with you. I am not suggesting perfectionists be lazy or complete half-hearted work, I am suggesting the complete opposite. "Good enough" is the equivalent to great work done by a non-perfectionist. You have to realize that the perfectionist is a time waster by working on things until they see perfection. So "good enough" is still great work with many hours of time saved.

Long Completion Time
When a perfectionist works on a project, they spend countless hours on said project. This means that it will take a perfectionist a longer time to complete a task than others. This can be a career killer. Someone else might be able to complete the assignment in much less time.
Additionally, this issue can carry over into personal life as well. If you are a perfectionist, getting ready will take you much longer than it will for others. This could lead to fights and arguments with spouses and family members, as well as consistently being late for dates, meetings, get-togethers and appointments.

May Probably End Up Alone
Another way perfectionism is bad is when it comes to relationships. Since a perfectionist needs to be perfect, he or she seeks a perfect mate as well. In this sense, they are looking for specific qualities in another person. Another way to put this is that they are looking for their Knight in Shining Armor or their Princess.
The odds of a perfectionist finding someone with all of these exact qualities are extremely rare. As a result, they tend to end up alone.

You're Afraid to Fail
At some point growing up, many of us begin to fear failing. I'm not certain when this happens or why, but it can be a destructive thing. It is OK to fail. In fact, I encourage failure and look forward to failing.
This isn't to say my goal is to fail all of the time. But I find that I learn more from failing than I do from succeeding. Failing builds character and helps me grow as a person.
Look at most professional sports teams and you will find failure. Many young teams that make the final series for the championship lose.(Real Madrid lost three semi finals consecutively before they finally became champions of Europe). This is because they don't know what to expect or how to prepare for the attention and hype. Many that do loose come back in the following years and win it all. They learned from their failure and improved.
Don't be afraid to fail. Embrace failure when it happens. Review everything that happened and learn from it.

Perfectionists Burn Out and are Unhealthy
Perfectionists tend to be stressed and have high levels of anxiety. Neither of these are good. Perfectionists give everything they do 110% and push themselves to make things perfect all of the time. Imagine trying to live where everything you do has to be right and perfect. It doesn't sound very fun does it? It almost sounds unattainable. Welcome to a typical day in the life of a perfectionist.
We place so much stress on ourselves we have health issues. At work, we burn out easily. We think that the job is extremely demanding and time consuming, but in reality, it is us that is extremely demanding. It is us that makes projects lasts weeks upon weeks so that they are perfect.

Final Thoughts
Many people relate perfectionism as a good quality when in fact it is a very destructive quality. If you are a perfectionist, you are better off learning to hit the reset button and give up some control sooner rather than later. The sooner you can learn that everything doesn't have to be perfect, the happier and healthier you will be.

By - Olalekan Badmus‎.

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'MAKE HAY WHILE THE SUN SHINES'...By Funmibi Ojo

When the sun is shining, a wise farmer sees it as a very good opportunity to gather Hay (that is: cutting, drying, and storing of grass, legumes etc) which is used to feed his livestock. He knows that the probability of getting all these done during rainy season is slim or maybe impossible. During rainy period, his mind is at rest, because he knows his livestock will survive on the hay. Working with hay is difficult in wet conditions, so sunny weather proves advantageous for this particular chore.

Now is the time for any wise youth to make the best of every opportunity to be what God wants him/her to be. This is the time to gather the 'hay' that will be used to generate greatness later in life. But it's a pity that many youths would rather spend their time gisting, sleeping, watching movies and listening to immoral songs that adds no positive value; and by the time they realise the extent of evil done to their future, it becomes too late to make amendments.

 They begin to 'cure' a situation that should have been prevented!!! So many even pretend under the guise of being a Christian to be lazy. The Bible already said it all and there's no 'two-way' about it; Proverbs 10:4 says: He becometh poor that dealeth [with] a slack hand: but the hand of the diligent maketh rich. A diligent child of God will always find favour before God and man. But for a lazy man, no 'food' for him!!!

let's dare to be different! Greatness isn't meant for some selected people, but it's God's plan for His children to be godly role models that will impact their generation and be lights wherever they find themselves. It's God's plan that YOU should be great! Even though you've failed in the past, don't let that limit you; you can RISE AND SHINE AGAIN! You can be another 'Joseph' that God will use to deliver your family from 'famine'. You can be another 'David' that will deliver your nation from her enemies. You can be another 'Esther' who will be favoured by God to marry a 'King of 127 provinces' and bring about the deliverance of her people! You can be another 'Deborah'; who will be a great leader and be successful both in marriage and ministry! PAY THAT PRICE NOW! Don't wait till when 'little or nothing' can be done! Let's not waste our youthful years! We've got no excuse! As we go this week, let's be determined to make those positive changes; let's be determined to leave a positive mark wherever we find ourselves; let's be determined to be a light that will point others to 'THE LIGHT'. MAKE 'HAY' WHILE THE 'SUN' SHINES; FOR THE 'RAIN' COMES WHEN IT WILL BE IMPOSSIBLE TO GATHER HAY!

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It's on You! By Ose

You will always believe you are broken If you keep letting people tell you what needs to be fixed in your life; You will always believe you are not good enough, if you keep letting people's negative opinions bring you down. A person's belief or disbelief in you doesn't determine your ability to succeed……unless you let it! A person's belief or disbelieve in you doesn't determine your ability to move forward……..unless you let it! There are people who will always find something wrong with everything you do, right or wrong…. But Don't let a few raindrops ruin your parade…Its never about what they think, its rather about what you choose to believe! Stop believing you are not good enough when God has made you great enough; People's negative opinions about you are useless……unless you give them power!! God has planted a seed of greatness in your heart; It's on you to decide, if you will let the opinions of small minds keep you from becoming all you were made to be. You can't become who you want to be, by remaining who you are. Don't let the negative opinions of others stop you from becoming great; Don't let the negative opinions of others pull you off the right path, Believe in God not opinions, trust God not opinions. You have all it takes to become all you were made to be; Its on you!!!

Have a Blessed Week.
~Ose‎

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