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Delaying Sex After Marriage, Greatest Rewards.

With the upward trend of cohabitation as a trial marriage, couples who wait to have sex until marriage are quickly becoming a minority in western countries. 
The general consensus is that exploration of sexual compatibility before the lifelong commitment would lead to a better marriage and by not doing one's marriage will be adversely impacted. If such belief were true, does it mean saving sex for marriage would lead to a worse marriage? 
A study in the American Psychological Association's Journal of Family Psychology indicates that waiting after marriage not only does not harm a relationship, it actually provides many benefits. 
 A statistical analysis showed the following benefits enjoyed by couples who waited until marriage compared to those who started having sex in the early part of their relationship 

Relationship stability was rated 22 percent higher. Relationship satisfaction was rated 20 percent higher Sexual quality of the relationship was rated 15 percent better, Communication was rated 12 percent better. 
The longer participants waited to be sexual, the more stable and satisfying their relationships were once they were married. Gender had a relatively small influence on the dependent variables. 
For the other dependent variables, the participants who waited to be sexual until after marriage had significantly higher levels of communication and sexual quality compared to the other two sexual timing groups. So even for couples who didn't wait until marriage, the benefits of delaying sexual involvement in their relationship still can be felt, although they were about half as strong. 
"Most research on the topic is focused on individuals' experiences and not the timing within a relationship," said lead study author Dean Busby. 

 "There's more to a relationship than sex, but we did find that those who waited longer were happier with the sexual aspect of their relationship," 

Busby added. "I think it's because they've learned to talk and have the skills to work with issues that come up." 
Sociologist Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas at Austin, who was not involved with this research, read the study and shared his take on the findings. 

 "Couples who hit the honeymoon too early – that is, prioritize sex promptly at the outset of a relationship – often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and trustworthy," 

said Regnerus, author of Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying*, a book forthcoming from Oxford University Press. 

Because religious belief often plays a role for couples who choose to wait, Busby and his co-authors controlled for the influence of religious involvement in their analysis. Busby concludes, 

"With the sample in this study it is clear that the longer a couple waited to become sexually involved the better their sexual quality, relationship communication, relationship satisfaction, and perceived relationship stability was in marriage, even when controlling fora variety of other variables such as the number of sexual partners, education, religiosity, and relationship length." 

The result of this study should give one more reason to delay sex until marriage, since it benefits people who do so, regardless of religiosity.

References:
1. Brigham Young University. "Couples who delay having sex get benefits later, study suggests." EurekAlert. (accessed April 12, 2014). 

2. Dean M. Busby, Jason S. Carroll, and Brian J. Willoughby. "Compatibility or Restraint? The Effects of Sexual Timing on Marriage Relationships," Journal of Family Psychology 24, no. 6 (2010): 766–774. doi:10.1037/a0021690

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ABORTION: CAUSES, METHODS AND CONSEQUENCES

Abortion is an operation or other intervention to end a pregnancy by removing an embryo or fetus from the womb. It is the deliberate termination of a human pregnancy or the natural expulsion of a fetus from womb before it is able to survive independently.
Abortion is not just the killing of fetus; it is the murder of a living thing – your child.

It's hard to believe that we actually murder Children. And why? Mostly for the convenience's sake. We don't want to be bothered by emotional trauma or physical discomfort or public humiliation.

Look at some children around you today. This is who you are killing when you get abortion – not things, not even masses of tissue with potential. We are talking about lives with souls.

Did you know that at about:
18 days – the mouth of the baby begin to open
24 days – arms and legs begin to take shape
42 days – fingers are forming on the hand
67 days – hair is now growing
75 days – the baby is seeing.

If a miracle like this is growing inside you, how could killing it even be an option? In his book "Sex: It's worth waiting for", Greg Speck says: "Do you know what I wish for? I wish people had a little window to the womb. If people could only see babies in the womb, babies that are connected to their mothers, they wouldn't so quickly take a life away from them".

At least 50 percent of all individuals who go into an abortion clinic never come out alive. They say it's a safe procedure for mothers, but it's deadly for your baby.

CAUSES OF ABORTION
1. Fear for financial difficulty to raise the child
2. Fear to what people or parents might think or say
3. Fear to the 9 months of pregnancy and to the pain during the labor
4. Health problems
5. Rape
6. Hormonal contraceptives and so many more
7. Unwanted pregnancy: Let me emphasize that I don't believe any pregnancy is unwanted for singles because if you don't want it, you wouldn't involve yourself in sex whether protected or not. The only means I believe, of not getting pregnant is by staying chaste.

The main problem of abortion is psychological and is fear.

Although, some of these causes might look genuine but it is never a reason why you should kill your own baby or why you should advice someone to terminate a life.

METHODS OF ABORTION
Would you like to know what your child goes through if he/she is aborted? (I didn't use "it" because; it is meant for animals but your child is human). Here is some info, but let me first warn you that this isn't pretty, and reading about these methods could cause some emotional trauma, especially if you or someone you know has already had an abortion. If you know you might not be able to stand the pain reading these methods of abortion could bring, I would advice you shouldn't bother going far, you can stop at this point.

Ways to do abortion

1. SUCTION ASPIRATION: The abortionist first paralyzes the cervix (womb opening). He then inserts a hollow plastic tube with knife – like tip into the uterus. The tube is connected to a powerful with a suction force 29 times more powerful than a home vacuum cleaner. The procedure tears the baby's body into pieces and hose the frequency jerks as pieces of the baby become lodged. The placenta is then cut from the inner wall of the uterus and the scraps are sucked out into a bottle. As the baby head can't pass through the womb, it is introduced into the womb an instrument that compresses the little head and then takes it out.
2. DILATATION AND CURETAGE: This is similar to the suction aspiration except that the abortionist inserts a curette (a hook – shaped steel knife) into the uterus, which is used to cut the baby into pieces. The baby is then smashed and scraped from the wall of the uterus out through the cervix and discarded. As you can imagine, bleeding is usually profuse.
3. DILATATION AND EVACUATION: This method is usually performed after the third month. Instead of the hook – shaped knife usually used in D&C abortions, a pair forceps (just like the shape of pliers) is inserted into the womb to grasp part of the fetus. The teeth of the forceps twist and tear the bones of the unborn child. This process is repeated until the fetus is totally dismembered and remove. Usually the spine must be snapped and the skull crushed in order to remove them.
4. SAALINE INJECTION (SALT POISONING): This procedure is usually done after four months. Why? Because a certain amount of fluid needs to have built up in the sac around the baby. A long needle is thrust through the abdomen into the sac. The abortionist will suck out some of the fluid and then inject a salt solution. The baby will swallow this. 
The child starts to jerk and kick, suffering severely because they are literally being burned alive by the solution inside the womb. If there ever ought to be a safe, protected place, it should be the womb. I wish both parents had to watch this procedure.
It will take the child more than an hour to die. If the woman has been pregnant for five months or longer, she will feel the baby fighting and kicking to live.
Usually within 24 hours, she will go into labor and deliver this tortured baby, dead, with skin burned away. But there is another problem. After all that suffering, the baby may still be born alive. Imagine wanting to live that much. The abortionist will sometimes take this poor burned baby and place it in a corner unattended to. Many times they will place a towel over the baby's face to induce suffocation, so that the baby will die. I think in other situations we would call this murder.
5. PROSTAGLADIN ABORTION: This is a hormone that induces labor. This form of abortion uses chemicals which cause the uterus to contract intensely, pushing out the developing baby. The contractions are more violent than normal natural contractions, so the baby dies from trauma of delivery. Many, however, have also been born alive.
6. RU – 486: This is a drug that produces an abortion taken after the mother misses her period. Its effect is to block a crucial hormone that causes the uterine lining to no longer provide food, fluid, and oxygen to the baby. Without this hormone the baby can't survive. When the abortion is complete the mother will see a tiny blob of tissue – her baby. (Note that RU – 486 is not a contraceptive because it does not prevent fertilization or implantation. It is used only after the mother missed her period and the baby is at least two to three weeks old).

I hope you see how sick and wrong is it to abort your baby. This is like a medieval torture. Notice that I do not call these people that perform abortions doctors, because doctor takes a pledge to protect life, and these people make a living by killing babies. (They are murderers). 

CONSEQUENCES OF ABORTION
Physical Consequences:
1. Drugs containing RU – 486 can cause liver damage, kidney destruction, heart muscle compromise, pulmonary failure, gastrointestinal pathology, and bone marrow suppression. It has also been reported to cause loss of speech function, strokes, and convulsion.
2. An increase risk of breast, cervical, ovarian and liver cancer
3. Complications, such as uterine perforation, cervical laceration, and placenta previa can not only cause very severe problems, but they can also lead to problems in future pregnancies, such as miscarriages, premature births, fetal deaths and children born with handicaps because any problem or change with a woman's reproductive organ may affect the development of her children.
4. Infection, including pelvic inflammatory disease, occurs in 30% of abortions; if not stopped soon enough, they can leave a woman barren.
5. Tremendous increase in the level of promiscuity and sexually transmitted diseases
6. Up to 127% risk for premature births in subsequent pregnancies; the rate is higher with multiple abortions
7. Death

Psychological consequences
1. Diminished respect for human life
2. Denial, guilt, sadness, and grieving at the death of the aborted baby that would be a woman's natural, feminine feelings and emotions
3. Psychological reactions like alcoholism, smoking, drug abuse, sexual addictions, and self destructive behavior.
4. Post abortion syndrome: depression to suicide or attempted suicide
5. Overwhelming feelings of regret or guilt during later pregnancies
6. Flashback and nightmares
7. Destruction of trust between men and women
8. Increased rates of divorce, domestic violence and child abuse
9. feelings of guilt or regret among fathers

To read more about methods of abortion, visit www.lifesitenews.com/abortiontypes/ or www.anael.org/english/abortion/ 

DEDICATION
[To every girls, ladies, women who had one time or the other commit abortion
To every ladies who are thinking of getting an abortion
To every guys who see abortion as the best option of not being a teenage father
To every abortionist who takes lives without having a rethink
To every parents who advice, suggest, support abortion for themselves or their children]


Write Up, Courtesy of
Adedoyin Oluwafemi Matthew
Visionary,
Maximum Impact Network, 
we vote for Sexual Purity.



Life is Transient
"Non nobis solum nati sumus"
(Not for ourselves alone are we born)

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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Wins US National Critics Book Prize for “Americanah”

Ace Nigerian author, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, is clearly having the best month of her life as she promotes her new book – “Americanah“.
Here’s another reason for her to go dancing in the wind - she has won the US National Critics Book Prize for her novel 'Americanah'.
The book was also selected as one of The New York Times’ 10 best books of 2013.
The National Critics Book Prize was first awarded in 1974 and is open to writers of all nationalities whose work has been published in the US.
Americanah was published in May 2013 by Alfred A. Knopf. It's a fictional novel that unravels the story of a young Nigerian woman who emigrates to America for a university education.
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (born 15 September 1977) has been called "the most prominent" of a "procession of critically acclaimed young Anglophone authors [that] is succeeding in attracting a new generation of readers to African literature", and her string of awards keep substantiating that claim.
Congratulations to her!

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Every Guy's Struggle. Part 2

Then I did take a chance and started confiding in a couple of close friends. I was really nervous about it at first, but I discovered they were a lot like me: feeling guilty about lust,
yet unable to gain control over it. Throughout the rest of that school year, we occasionally talked about our problems.
Even so, I still struggled. Then something happened during my senior year that gave me hope. After our church's midweek service, I started talking to one of the close friends I'd been confiding in.
Since he'd had problems with Internet porn and masturbation, I asked him how he was doing. He looked at me and said, "Mark, I haven't done any of that in a month." He then began talking about sexual purity, and how he felt
God was helping him make changes in his life. In a few minutes, another guy dropped by the table we were sitting at. Then another and another. Before long, there were six of us talking openly about lust. By the time we'd finished our conversation, I felt like God really could change me! Before our conversation ended, we'd formed an accountability group. The six of us started meeting weekly. We promised to be open and real with each other—and not
share anything we heard with anyone outside the group. We also talked a lot about the importance of not putting ourselves in situations that would cause us to think or do
things we knew were wrong. And when it came to dating, we all agreed that going out with someone who wanted to push the limits was asking for trouble.The discussions—and the accountability—were great. But
there were still times we'd get discouraged over how often
we'd fail."Run Toward God"Around this time an adult leader from the church visited our group. He congratulated us for our courage and our desire to change. Then he told us something that really helped. As best as I can remember, here's some of what he said:
"You need to ask God for forgiveness and then forget about
it. After all, God forgets about it! He has a short memory when it comes to confessed sin. "There will always be sin in our lives, so don't dwell on it. Confess it, then move on and talk about prevention. But don't focus so much on what you shouldn't do. Instead, get rooted in God. Don't just run away from lust. Run toward
God."
Our meetings changed after that. While we continued to talk about our struggles, we also talked more about building a solid relationship with Christ. By drawing closer to Christ, we discovered it was easier to distance ourselves from lustful thinking and actions.To be continued...
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Oscar! Lupita Nyong’o wins at the 2014 Academy Awards

Congrats to Kenyan actress Lupita Nyong’o!
She has just won the Academy Award for Best Actress in a Supporting Role for her role as Patsy in “12 Years a Slave
Lupita ended her emotional speech by saying – “No matter where you’re from your dreams are valid.
So poignant.

The sky is so big that if we all decide to fly, it would surely accommodate us all. There is no limit to where you want to go.

Really got inspired by the success story of #LupitaNyong'o and the only lesson their is, FOLLOW YOUR DREAM AT Y...OUR BEST! Lupita did her thing (acting) at her best, she believed in her God's giving talent and she got promoted not only in the midst of men but extraordinray men.

Last night, #LupitaNyong'o, a 31 years old kenyan actress won an OSCAR Award for her role in 12 Years A Slave which was her first featuring movie. She was once a lady that limited herself because of her inferiorities, she thought other women were better than her that she could not be a person of relevance. Now she is the most trending person all over the world for the past one week.

"When I look down at this golden statue, may it remind me and every little child that no matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid. Thank you." -Lupita Nyong'o

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Top 10 Laws for Single Ladies



1. Have the Fear of God!

2. Don't be in a hurry to move out of your parent's house.

3. Don't wait for a man before you
start living. You can live a fulfilled life as a single woman.

4. Stay away from alcohol. It has killed others and you are not special.

5. Don't entertain wrong numbers calling you, especially late in the night. It's not the right way to find a lover.

6. Develop a healthy eating habit. Always take breakfast and avoid sweets.

7. Dress well: impression counts. People will judge you by the way you dress even before they talk to
you.

8. Don't use sex as proof of love. Sex is not a proof for love; he'll still leave you after all that sweet sex.

9. Don't marry someone because of money, else you'll become one of his possessions.

10. Add value to yourself, get a career. Don't be fooled that a man will solve all your problems and always value yourself.


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