Having Sex with Just Anyone?

Proverbs 5: 16-17 (NLT) Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?
You should reserve it for yourselves.

Dear Mr. Endowed, they say you are very good on the bed and all the ladies keep coming back for more. In your mind as long as you use that condom you are safe but I bet you have never thought about Spiritually Transmitted Diseases (STD)s. STDs create soul ties, it prevents you from totally settling down or being faithful to any wo...man. That is the reason why you want Titi's breast and Lara's butt, you crave Lara's shape and Bisi's skin.

Another thing you did not think about are the chances of a leaking condom or being caught in the spur of the moment and deciding to go without condoms. Just that one time without a condom might be your undoing ; she may get pregnant.

The funny thing is the woman you are really crazy about is not always the one who gets pregnant, it's usually the troublesome and not so pretty one, congrats, you are about to be a baby daddy or you could decide to abort the baby; you could decide to commit murder.

What I want to ask you is this; is it really worth it? The STDs, the unwanted pregnancies, the abortions, the soul ties? How many times have you given money for an abortion? How many times have you laid on top of a woman and lied right in her eyes when she asked if you loved her? Your manhood is smeared with the blood of aborted babies and pieces of broken hearts.

Always remember, God is a God of Justice, He will send you a woman just like you, you will marry your kind. God will not send you one of His precious daughters so you can break her heart.
Change your ways so you can safeguard your future. God who created you instructed you to stay away from premarital sex because He knows it will cause you pain and truncate your destiny. Sow goodwill ahead of you, not curses. God will help us in Jesus name.

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By Adewale Aladejana
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Delaying Sex After Marriage, Greatest Rewards.

With the upward trend of cohabitation as a trial marriage, couples who wait to have sex until marriage are quickly becoming a minority in western countries. 

The general consensus is that exploration of sexual compatibility before the lifelong commitment would lead to a better marriage and by not doing one's marriage will be adversely impacted. If such belief were true, does it mean saving sex for marriage would lead to a worse marriage? 

A study in the American Psychological Association's Journal of Family Psychology indicates that waiting after marriage not only does not harm a relationship, it actually provides many benefits. 

 A statistical analysis showed the following benefits enjoyed by couples who waited until marriage compared to those who started having sex in the early part of their relationship 

Relationship stability was rated 22 percent higher. Relationship satisfaction was rated 20 percent higher Sexual quality of the relationship was rated 15 percent better, Communication was rated 12 percent better. 

The longer participants waited to be sexual, the more stable and satisfying their relationships were once they were married. Gender had a relatively small influence on the dependent variables. 

For the other dependent variables, the participants who waited to be sexual until after marriage had significantly higher levels of communication and sexual quality compared to the other two sexual timing groups. So even for couples who didn't wait until marriage, the benefits of delaying sexual involvement in their relationship still can be felt, although they were about half as strong. 

"Most research on the topic is focused on individuals' experiences and not the timing within a relationship," said lead study author Dean Busby. 

 "There's more to a relationship than sex, but we did find that those who waited longer were happier with the sexual aspect of their relationship," 

Busby added. "I think it's because they've learned to talk and have the skills to work with issues that come up." 

Sociologist Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas at Austin, who was not involved with this research, read the study and shared his take on the findings. 

 "Couples who hit the honeymoon too early – that is, prioritize sex promptly at the outset of a relationship – often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and trustworthy," 

said Regnerus, author of Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying*, a book forthcoming from Oxford University Press. 

Because religious belief often plays a role for couples who choose to wait, Busby and his co-authors controlled for the influence of religious involvement in their analysis. Busby concludes, 

"With the sample in this study it is clear that the longer a couple waited to become sexually involved the better their sexual quality, relationship communication, relationship satisfaction, and perceived relationship stability was in marriage, even when controlling fora variety of other variables such as the number of sexual partners, education, religiosity, and relationship length." 

The result of this study should give one more reason to delay sex until marriage, since it benefits people who do so, regardless of religiosity.

References:

1. Brigham Young University. "Couples who delay having sex get benefits later, study suggests." EurekAlert. (accessed April 12, 2014). 

2. Dean M. Busby, Jason S. Carroll, and Brian J. Willoughby. "Compatibility or Restraint? The Effects of Sexual Timing on Marriage Relationships," Journal of Family Psychology 24, no. 6 (2010): 766–774. doi:10.1037/a0021690

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Every Guy's Struggle. Part 2

Then I did take a chance and started confiding in a couple of close friends. I was really nervous about it at first, but I discovered they were a lot like me: feeling guilty about lust,
yet unable to gain control over it. Throughout the rest of that school year, we occasionally talked about our problems.
Even so, I still struggled. Then something happened during my senior year that gave me hope. After our church's midweek service, I started talking to one of the close friends I'd been confiding in.
Since he'd had problems with Internet porn and masturbation, I asked him how he was doing. He looked at me and said, "Mark, I haven't done any of that in a month." He then began talking about sexual purity, and how he felt
God was helping him make changes in his life. In a few minutes, another guy dropped by the table we were sitting at. Then another and another. Before long, there were six of us talking openly about lust. By the time we'd finished our conversation, I felt like God really could change me! Before our conversation ended, we'd formed an accountability group. The six of us started meeting weekly. We promised to be open and real with each other—and not
share anything we heard with anyone outside the group. We also talked a lot about the importance of not putting ourselves in situations that would cause us to think or do
things we knew were wrong. And when it came to dating, we all agreed that going out with someone who wanted to push the limits was asking for trouble.The discussions—and the accountability—were great. But
there were still times we'd get discouraged over how often
we'd fail."Run Toward God"Around this time an adult leader from the church visited our group. He congratulated us for our courage and our desire to change. Then he told us something that really helped. As best as I can remember, here's some of what he said:
"You need to ask God for forgiveness and then forget about
it. After all, God forgets about it! He has a short memory when it comes to confessed sin. "There will always be sin in our lives, so don't dwell on it. Confess it, then move on and talk about prevention. But don't focus so much on what you shouldn't do. Instead, get rooted in God. Don't just run away from lust. Run toward
God."
Our meetings changed after that. While we continued to talk about our struggles, we also talked more about building a solid relationship with Christ. By drawing closer to Christ, we discovered it was easier to distance ourselves from lustful thinking and actions.To be continued...
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Living a Disciplined Life

It takes determination to live a disciplined life. Do you know there are ladies who go to the club and never come back? For some, their drinks are drugged, some guys have night accidents as a result of driving under the influence of alcohol, some girls are used for rituals, some are initiated into secret societies. The question is: Is clubbing Bad? Remember the maxim. "You must always be at the right place at the right time". Never you be in a place you know the grace of God won't protect you. Don't abuse the suffeciency of God's mercies.


    Its a decision to club and a decision to use your night hours to reflect on how better your life could possibly be or have a peaceful sleep instead. We have the freedom to act, but our actions either make or mar our future. Exposure has both negative and positive sides. Why do young people do things they would on a good day won't want their Parents to be aware of? Living a disciplined life entails a whole lot of sacrifices. A story of a young man who went for a wedding ceremony. While at the event, a very fair gorgeous lady approached him. He got so attracted and began a conversation with her. After then, he stylishly asked for the lady out and asked to spend the night with him. After series of persuasion, the lady agreed. On their way home, the lady sexually aroused the young man. So while driving home, the girl put her mouth on the private parts of the man till he was sexually satisfied. While at the middle of a bridge, the lady asked for the man to stop the car, so she could spit out the content from the man's private part away. She instructed the man not to look back, but he stubbornly did. Only to find the lady jumping into the sea from the bridge. Then he came down to discover she was no longer there. Then he knew his life was finished. The life of that young man was never the same. He started experiencing continuous bad luck, all round failure and all sort of negativity was prominent in his life. The lady had sucked his destiny, the lady manipulated him with what she took out of him (sperm)

  Do u know you have to be careful about whatsoever comes out from your body, your hair, your sperm, your menstral blood, your sweat, your blood, your nails, your saliva. These contents are what is being used against a person because it's a part of you that represents your whole. The young man felt he had caught a big fish to spend the night with, but whereas, a big fish caught him and dealt with him mercilessly. He sought spiritual help from a prominent bible believing church and attended series of deliverance sessions and through the process shared his story.
So many young guys sleep with random girls and go away with them. (Only in a short run). Many ladies follow Sugar daddies who spend extravagantly on them in exchange of their virtues. Many people steal and amass wealth. The end will tell. Do we most times measure the lavish spending on young girls by older men who sleep with them, compared with what the young girl offers in return? We most times can't eat our cake and have it. Living a disciplined life is our key legacy on earth.
The best way we can live a disciplined life is to itemise our few weakpoints, pray about them, tell God to take control. Make resolutions and promise God you won't do such acts again. Living a disciplined life would make you a responsible and better person. You would be proud of yourself.

   Youthful exuberance has resulted in elongated years of struggle. A journey of four years, could be extended for forty years if precautions are not taken. As students, concentrate in school, avoid negative friends, avoid clubbing, avoid exam malpractice. As a working class man/woman, be sincere in your dealings, be hard working, be innovative. As a single youth, be prayerful, be disciplined, keep yourself. As a married person, be faithful to your spouse, appreciate your spouse daily. Tell your husband you love him, tell your wife she's beautiful and kiss her on her forehead daily. As a parent, train your child in the way of the Lord.

Young people should not be carried away by the lost of the flesh. Do not let the desire for money, fame and lust take a reasonable part of You. Be patient, prioritise your life, live according to biblical principles and in retrospect, you would reap good fruits.

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