Having Sex with Just Anyone?

Proverbs 5: 16-17 (NLT) Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?
You should reserve it for yourselves.

Dear Mr. Endowed, they say you are very good on the bed and all the ladies keep coming back for more. In your mind as long as you use that condom you are safe but I bet you have never thought about Spiritually Transmitted Diseases (STD)s. STDs create soul ties, it prevents you from totally settling down or being faithful to any wo...man. That is the reason why you want Titi's breast and Lara's butt, you crave Lara's shape and Bisi's skin.

Another thing you did not think about are the chances of a leaking condom or being caught in the spur of the moment and deciding to go without condoms. Just that one time without a condom might be your undoing ; she may get pregnant.

The funny thing is the woman you are really crazy about is not always the one who gets pregnant, it's usually the troublesome and not so pretty one, congrats, you are about to be a baby daddy or you could decide to abort the baby; you could decide to commit murder.

What I want to ask you is this; is it really worth it? The STDs, the unwanted pregnancies, the abortions, the soul ties? How many times have you given money for an abortion? How many times have you laid on top of a woman and lied right in her eyes when she asked if you loved her? Your manhood is smeared with the blood of aborted babies and pieces of broken hearts.

Always remember, God is a God of Justice, He will send you a woman just like you, you will marry your kind. God will not send you one of His precious daughters so you can break her heart.
Change your ways so you can safeguard your future. God who created you instructed you to stay away from premarital sex because He knows it will cause you pain and truncate your destiny. Sow goodwill ahead of you, not curses. God will help us in Jesus name.

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Delaying Sex After Marriage, Greatest Rewards.

With the upward trend of cohabitation as a trial marriage, couples who wait to have sex until marriage are quickly becoming a minority in western countries. 

The general consensus is that exploration of sexual compatibility before the lifelong commitment would lead to a better marriage and by not doing one's marriage will be adversely impacted. If such belief were true, does it mean saving sex for marriage would lead to a worse marriage? 

A study in the American Psychological Association's Journal of Family Psychology indicates that waiting after marriage not only does not harm a relationship, it actually provides many benefits. 

 A statistical analysis showed the following benefits enjoyed by couples who waited until marriage compared to those who started having sex in the early part of their relationship 

Relationship stability was rated 22 percent higher. Relationship satisfaction was rated 20 percent higher Sexual quality of the relationship was rated 15 percent better, Communication was rated 12 percent better. 

The longer participants waited to be sexual, the more stable and satisfying their relationships were once they were married. Gender had a relatively small influence on the dependent variables. 

For the other dependent variables, the participants who waited to be sexual until after marriage had significantly higher levels of communication and sexual quality compared to the other two sexual timing groups. So even for couples who didn't wait until marriage, the benefits of delaying sexual involvement in their relationship still can be felt, although they were about half as strong. 

"Most research on the topic is focused on individuals' experiences and not the timing within a relationship," said lead study author Dean Busby. 

 "There's more to a relationship than sex, but we did find that those who waited longer were happier with the sexual aspect of their relationship," 

Busby added. "I think it's because they've learned to talk and have the skills to work with issues that come up." 

Sociologist Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas at Austin, who was not involved with this research, read the study and shared his take on the findings. 

 "Couples who hit the honeymoon too early – that is, prioritize sex promptly at the outset of a relationship – often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and trustworthy," 

said Regnerus, author of Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying*, a book forthcoming from Oxford University Press. 

Because religious belief often plays a role for couples who choose to wait, Busby and his co-authors controlled for the influence of religious involvement in their analysis. Busby concludes, 

"With the sample in this study it is clear that the longer a couple waited to become sexually involved the better their sexual quality, relationship communication, relationship satisfaction, and perceived relationship stability was in marriage, even when controlling fora variety of other variables such as the number of sexual partners, education, religiosity, and relationship length." 

The result of this study should give one more reason to delay sex until marriage, since it benefits people who do so, regardless of religiosity.

References:

1. Brigham Young University. "Couples who delay having sex get benefits later, study suggests." EurekAlert. (accessed April 12, 2014). 

2. Dean M. Busby, Jason S. Carroll, and Brian J. Willoughby. "Compatibility or Restraint? The Effects of Sexual Timing on Marriage Relationships," Journal of Family Psychology 24, no. 6 (2010): 766–774. doi:10.1037/a0021690

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Every Guy's Struggle. Part 1

I agonised, I pleaded with God. But then I'd find myself again and again falling into lust.
Bored and without much to do on a Saturday night, I was alone in the basement surfing through TV channels. Like snapshots with sound, the images flipped by rapidly, telling me that, as usual, there wasn't much of anything on TV.
Then I hit a couple of numbers randomly, and suddenly I was staring at slightly blurred images of naked bodies having sexual intercourse.The blurry reception told me our cable connection had picked up a station that wasn't part of our package. I glanced at the remote, and then looked nervously toward the basement stairway. I knew I should change the channel, but
instead I stared at the couple on the screen. Minutes passed before I clicked the remote. In that short period of time, I'd placed powerful images in my mind that would play over and over like a continuous instant replay.
It wasn't the last time I'd turn to this "secret channel." Throughout my junior year, I'd find opportunities to watch it. Sexually excited by what I'd seen, I'd go into the bathroom and masturbate. Then I'd experience intense guilt.
I tried to stop. Sometimes I'd go weeks without watching that pornographic station. Even so, there were still other things that stimulated me sexually—and I didn't have to
make any special effort to find them. It could be a model in a commercial or magazine ad. Or maybe I would stare longer than I should at a girl at school in a midriff-baring top, a short dress or low-cut shirt. I'd find myself
daydreaming about what I'd seen. Sometimes those images I tucked into my brain led me to masturbate. But whether or not I masturbated, I knew I'd let myself fall into lust.
I agonized. I pleaded with God:"God, forgive me!""Help me!""I'm so sorry … "But then I'd find myself giving in and letting my mind go places it shouldn't. The shame and the guilt dug in deeper and deeper.Help Me to Be Like Joseph
During this time, I really was trying to live my faith, which included reading my Bible. I remember reading through the book of Genesis and being surprised by the problems many of God's people experienced. Apparently God used less-than-perfect people, I thought. There might be hope for me.
Then I came to the incredible story of Joseph near the end of Genesis. I was pulled in by this story of a young man who was sexually harassed by a powerful and probably very beautiful woman. She wouldn't leave him alone, yet he
consistently ignored her advances. One time she approached him, grabbed him by his coat and insisted: "Have sex with
me!" He didn't try to reason with her. He didn't pause to think about whether he should or shouldn't hang around.
His first impulse was to get out of there—and quickly.
To make sure I hadn't missed anything important, I re read the story. Then I prayed:
"God, help me to be more like Joseph … "Far from Alone
As sincere as my prayer was, I continued to struggle. I felt so alone in my shame and guilt. But I knew I wasn't alone.
The guys in my small group Bible study would often hint at their own struggles. But they'd never get too specific. There would be a moment of embarrassing silence, then the topic would change. It was like we all knew we struggled, yet were afraid to get too vulnerable. I began to think lust and masturbation were problems too private to talk about—even with a group of guys.To be continued....
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5 Questions to Ask Before You Date

Ever wish you could predict ahead of time whether or not a dating relationship will work out? It would save a lot of headaches and heartache, wouldn't it? While you can't predict the future, you can make choices that will help guide you to relationships that are both exciting and honouring to God.
Here's how.
As you think through potential dates, ask yourself these questions:1. What's my first impression?
"Don't judge a book by its cover." That's how the old saying goes. True, first impressions aren't totally accurate. But until you get to know a person, you must depend on first impressions.Who do they hang around with? What kind of parties do they go to? Do they drink, smoke, use drugs? This kind of "first impression" information is very helpful as you think about who you will or won't consider dating.2. How well do I know them?
It always makes sense to go out with someone you've known for a while rather than a stranger.3. Do they treat others with respect?
Ever been around a girl who can't do anything but put down her boyfriend? Ever spent time with a guy who likes to brag about how far he got on his last date? Not exactly the kind of people you want to trust with your self-image or your reputation.
4. Do our values clash?
Are the things most important to you also important to them? Are you headed in the same general direction in life?
(For instance: You value good grades and plan to attend
college; your potential date regularly cuts classes and has no plans for life after graduation.)
Do they have decent standards when it comes to the movies and TV shows they watch?
You may be thinking, But, hey, I've heard opposites attract! Not a good
dating rule to live by, especially when it comes to values, moral standards and personal beliefs.5. Do they keep their promises?
If they've been in a serious dating relationship before, did they flirt with others or cheat on the person they were dating? It's good to keep in mind that a promise breaker can
quickly become a heart breaker, too.
No relationship is perfect. But good relationships seek to put God first. They're encouraging. They're supportive.If your relationship is already established, it might be time to
ask some questions about getting serious.Christianity of Today.
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Do You Know the Difference Between Love and Sex?

Are you tired of relationships that don't work? Do you long
to find that special person you really connect with and have the kind of sexual intimacy that you've always dreamed of?
I want you to know that it is possible. God even has a plan
for this -- and the key to experiencing His plan is to know
the difference between love and sex.
Hollywood and the media inundate us daily with messages telling us that love and sex are the same. And many of us continue to believe the lies that sex outside of marriage is
okay if two people really love each other, or that lusting after images on the Internet is harmless and doesn't hurt anyone. But the truth is sex doesn't equal love and intimacy.
It's crucial that we know the difference between sex and
love, because if we don't, we're doomed to fail at both.
In Ephesians, chapter 5, its explained "how we're to have a relationship based on genuine love and authentic intimacy. Let's start off by saying: Follow God's example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. We are called to "walk in the way of
love" with one another. But what does walking in the "way of love" look like and how do we do it? Walking in love means being kind, giving, caring, sacrificial and unselfish toward others. This is the opposite of exploiting others for
our own personal gain and engaging in immoral sexual activity.
Then Paul tells us to avoid indulging in selfish and sexual immoral behavior: Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking,
which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the God's kingdom.
Notice that it's not just sexually immoral behavior that is prohibited, but also immoral speech such as "coarse joking" and "foolish talk." This is the kind of talk that makes light of sexual impurity.
God also wants us to know that even our thoughts matter.
Do you know that some of the most
important decisions we make every day revolve around what we allow in our minds and take into our hearts?
Therefore, we need to be aware that certain activities, people, or media can negatively influence our behavior and our thoughts.
So why does God make such a big deal out of sexual immorality? Sexual impurity – in our mind, speech, body and behavior – destroys relationships. And it destroys our relationship with God first.When there is sex with no marriage commitment, our capacity to be intimate and experience Gods love is diminished. When we're filled with shame and hypocrisy, it becomes nearly impossible to be authentic with God and experience His presence to the fullest. This breaks His heart because He wants to be close with us.
He also wants us to experience the most amazing love and intimacy in a relationship with another person. And He wants us to know that love is about commitment, and sex is a gift that we open His way with the right person, in the right time, and in the right way.
So now I'd like to offer a word of hope, wherever you're at today. Whether you're single, dating or married, you've blown it in past relationships and still feel a lot of regret and shame, or you're struggling with sexual immorality right now, I want you to know that God is not down on you. Forgiveness and restoration is available. God loves you and is inviting you to respond - to repent and deal with the issues before you.Chip Ingram, Teaching Pastor
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Iyanla Vanzant: 5 Steps To Breaking A Negative Pattern

Q: How do I break a negative pattern?

1. First, notice it.

Maybe you always end up in drama-filled relationships, or you go through endless cycles of overreacting and guilt. The challenge with negative patterns is that they're unconscious. But we can train our minds to recognize them by paying attention to our emotions: When we feel pain we've felt countless times before, we must ask ourselves why.

2. Second, know its cause.

We fall into patterns because we fail to face reality. We return to the same bad situation, hoping that this time will be different. I've said it before: What we resist will persist. When we aren't honest with ourselves about what we feel, we are doomed to repeat our mistakes.

3. Slow down!

Many patterns occur because we move too fast to see things for what they really are. We meet someone today and go on a date tomorrow, and by the next day, we're already imagining the wedding. The key is to manage our expectations to see what's really occurring right in front of us.

4. Forgive yourself.

Forgiveness clears out the residue of the past. Until we forgive ourselves for what we did, did not do, or should have done, we will repeat our patterns. But when the mind is clear of guilt and shame, it focuses on what is here instead of what was, and lets us take each moment as it comes.

5. Check in.

When we recognize that we're doing (again) what we've always done, we can't wait: We must stop ourselves in the moment. Ask yourself, What am I doing, and why? Breathe yourself through that thought -- and make another choice right then and there.

Iyanla Vanzant is the host of OWN's "Iyanla: Fix My Life" and the author of Peace from Broken Pieces (SmileyBooks).

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Living a Disciplined Life

It takes determination to live a disciplined life. Do you know there are ladies who go to the club and never come back? For some, their drinks are drugged, some guys have night accidents as a result of driving under the influence of alcohol, some girls are used for rituals, some are initiated into secret societies. The question is: Is clubbing Bad? Remember the maxim. "You must always be at the right place at the right time". Never you be in a place you know the grace of God won't protect you. Don't abuse the suffeciency of God's mercies.


    Its a decision to club and a decision to use your night hours to reflect on how better your life could possibly be or have a peaceful sleep instead. We have the freedom to act, but our actions either make or mar our future. Exposure has both negative and positive sides. Why do young people do things they would on a good day won't want their Parents to be aware of? Living a disciplined life entails a whole lot of sacrifices. A story of a young man who went for a wedding ceremony. While at the event, a very fair gorgeous lady approached him. He got so attracted and began a conversation with her. After then, he stylishly asked for the lady out and asked to spend the night with him. After series of persuasion, the lady agreed. On their way home, the lady sexually aroused the young man. So while driving home, the girl put her mouth on the private parts of the man till he was sexually satisfied. While at the middle of a bridge, the lady asked for the man to stop the car, so she could spit out the content from the man's private part away. She instructed the man not to look back, but he stubbornly did. Only to find the lady jumping into the sea from the bridge. Then he came down to discover she was no longer there. Then he knew his life was finished. The life of that young man was never the same. He started experiencing continuous bad luck, all round failure and all sort of negativity was prominent in his life. The lady had sucked his destiny, the lady manipulated him with what she took out of him (sperm)

  Do u know you have to be careful about whatsoever comes out from your body, your hair, your sperm, your menstral blood, your sweat, your blood, your nails, your saliva. These contents are what is being used against a person because it's a part of you that represents your whole. The young man felt he had caught a big fish to spend the night with, but whereas, a big fish caught him and dealt with him mercilessly. He sought spiritual help from a prominent bible believing church and attended series of deliverance sessions and through the process shared his story.
So many young guys sleep with random girls and go away with them. (Only in a short run). Many ladies follow Sugar daddies who spend extravagantly on them in exchange of their virtues. Many people steal and amass wealth. The end will tell. Do we most times measure the lavish spending on young girls by older men who sleep with them, compared with what the young girl offers in return? We most times can't eat our cake and have it. Living a disciplined life is our key legacy on earth.
The best way we can live a disciplined life is to itemise our few weakpoints, pray about them, tell God to take control. Make resolutions and promise God you won't do such acts again. Living a disciplined life would make you a responsible and better person. You would be proud of yourself.

   Youthful exuberance has resulted in elongated years of struggle. A journey of four years, could be extended for forty years if precautions are not taken. As students, concentrate in school, avoid negative friends, avoid clubbing, avoid exam malpractice. As a working class man/woman, be sincere in your dealings, be hard working, be innovative. As a single youth, be prayerful, be disciplined, keep yourself. As a married person, be faithful to your spouse, appreciate your spouse daily. Tell your husband you love him, tell your wife she's beautiful and kiss her on her forehead daily. As a parent, train your child in the way of the Lord.

Young people should not be carried away by the lost of the flesh. Do not let the desire for money, fame and lust take a reasonable part of You. Be patient, prioritise your life, live according to biblical principles and in retrospect, you would reap good fruits.

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