Having Sex with Just Anyone?

Proverbs 5: 16-17 (NLT) Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?
You should reserve it for yourselves.

Dear Mr. Endowed, they say you are very good on the bed and all the ladies keep coming back for more. In your mind as long as you use that condom you are safe but I bet you have never thought about Spiritually Transmitted Diseases (STD)s. STDs create soul ties, it prevents you from totally settling down or being faithful to any wo...man. That is the reason why you want Titi's breast and Lara's butt, you crave Lara's shape and Bisi's skin.

Another thing you did not think about are the chances of a leaking condom or being caught in the spur of the moment and deciding to go without condoms. Just that one time without a condom might be your undoing ; she may get pregnant.

The funny thing is the woman you are really crazy about is not always the one who gets pregnant, it's usually the troublesome and not so pretty one, congrats, you are about to be a baby daddy or you could decide to abort the baby; you could decide to commit murder.

What I want to ask you is this; is it really worth it? The STDs, the unwanted pregnancies, the abortions, the soul ties? How many times have you given money for an abortion? How many times have you laid on top of a woman and lied right in her eyes when she asked if you loved her? Your manhood is smeared with the blood of aborted babies and pieces of broken hearts.

Always remember, God is a God of Justice, He will send you a woman just like you, you will marry your kind. God will not send you one of His precious daughters so you can break her heart.
Change your ways so you can safeguard your future. God who created you instructed you to stay away from premarital sex because He knows it will cause you pain and truncate your destiny. Sow goodwill ahead of you, not curses. God will help us in Jesus name.

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By Adewale Aladejana
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Delaying Sex After Marriage, Greatest Rewards.

With the upward trend of cohabitation as a trial marriage, couples who wait to have sex until marriage are quickly becoming a minority in western countries. 

The general consensus is that exploration of sexual compatibility before the lifelong commitment would lead to a better marriage and by not doing one's marriage will be adversely impacted. If such belief were true, does it mean saving sex for marriage would lead to a worse marriage? 

A study in the American Psychological Association's Journal of Family Psychology indicates that waiting after marriage not only does not harm a relationship, it actually provides many benefits. 

 A statistical analysis showed the following benefits enjoyed by couples who waited until marriage compared to those who started having sex in the early part of their relationship 

Relationship stability was rated 22 percent higher. Relationship satisfaction was rated 20 percent higher Sexual quality of the relationship was rated 15 percent better, Communication was rated 12 percent better. 

The longer participants waited to be sexual, the more stable and satisfying their relationships were once they were married. Gender had a relatively small influence on the dependent variables. 

For the other dependent variables, the participants who waited to be sexual until after marriage had significantly higher levels of communication and sexual quality compared to the other two sexual timing groups. So even for couples who didn't wait until marriage, the benefits of delaying sexual involvement in their relationship still can be felt, although they were about half as strong. 

"Most research on the topic is focused on individuals' experiences and not the timing within a relationship," said lead study author Dean Busby. 

 "There's more to a relationship than sex, but we did find that those who waited longer were happier with the sexual aspect of their relationship," 

Busby added. "I think it's because they've learned to talk and have the skills to work with issues that come up." 

Sociologist Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas at Austin, who was not involved with this research, read the study and shared his take on the findings. 

 "Couples who hit the honeymoon too early – that is, prioritize sex promptly at the outset of a relationship – often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and trustworthy," 

said Regnerus, author of Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying*, a book forthcoming from Oxford University Press. 

Because religious belief often plays a role for couples who choose to wait, Busby and his co-authors controlled for the influence of religious involvement in their analysis. Busby concludes, 

"With the sample in this study it is clear that the longer a couple waited to become sexually involved the better their sexual quality, relationship communication, relationship satisfaction, and perceived relationship stability was in marriage, even when controlling fora variety of other variables such as the number of sexual partners, education, religiosity, and relationship length." 

The result of this study should give one more reason to delay sex until marriage, since it benefits people who do so, regardless of religiosity.

References:

1. Brigham Young University. "Couples who delay having sex get benefits later, study suggests." EurekAlert. (accessed April 12, 2014). 

2. Dean M. Busby, Jason S. Carroll, and Brian J. Willoughby. "Compatibility or Restraint? The Effects of Sexual Timing on Marriage Relationships," Journal of Family Psychology 24, no. 6 (2010): 766–774. doi:10.1037/a0021690

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WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SEX

Sex is:

 a covenant exchange of two people in marriage environment for the purpose of unity and procreation.

  the difference between a male and female gender 

 physical, psychological, spiritual and emotional in nature 

 Risky; you can get pregnant, get a sexually transmitted disease, have your heart broken or ego bruised, or feel let down and disappointed when it is over

  a process; you only get one chance to loose your virginity 

 good 

 meant for Re – Creation (Creating new offspring) Sex is NOT: 

 a way to make somebody love you or make a commitment to you 

 a test of your love for your partner

 a measure of how mature or grown up you are 

 a good way to assert independence

  recreation (Refreshment of the mind and body after work) or a leisure activity 

 an event; it don't just happen (unless you are a victim rape) 

 commitment or intimacy. If sex create commitment, then those prostitutes should have a lot of commitment from the different people who sleep with them and still get paid. Facts you must know 

 God is the originator of sex. He made us sexual being. Therefore, it is normal to feel sexual urge. If sometimes you feel like having sex, don't think something is wrong with you because it is normal to feel so except you are just a pack of wood that doesn't have blood, water, feelings, emotion etc.  In his book, 'Sex Straight talk', Sam Adeyemi told a story of a young man who became born again and was zealous for God. He found out to his dismay that as prayerful and spiritual as he was, he still was sexually aroused, and was being tormented, so he said, by thoughts of women. One day he locked himself in his room and sliced off his penis, because he took literally what Jesus said that if your hand would hinder you from getting to heaven, cut it off. The guy didn't envisage the grave consequences of his action. He was alone in the room and was soon bleeding profusely with pain. Afraid he might die suddenly, he screamed for attention. Neighbours got him quickly to hospital where newsmen found him. "Why did you do this to yourself," they asked him. His sexual thoughts were troubling him from serving God, he said. This is a case of a man trying to deny his sexuality. We shouldn't deny who we are – Sexual Beings. Attraction between the opposite sexes is natural and normal. Rather than deny or pretend about our sexuality, we should accept it and then learn what to do to manage it. 

 Your most important sex organ is your mind. If you gain control of your mind, then you have gained control of your life 

 The quantity of sex does not make a relationship valid. It is the quality of the relationship that makes sex valid. 

 Sex is powerful but not impossible to control‎ 

 The most appropriate occasion to have sex for the first time is not when you are matured but when you are married 

 Sex is not meant for boys and girls, it is meant for men and women in a marriage environment 

 Unless you want to get pregnant, you must practice abstinence.

Don't let anyone tell you that with BIRTH CONTROL you cannot get pregnant – that's a lie. The only sure way of not getting pregnant is SELF CONTROL. The most popular mentioned and used birth control tool is condom. 

To listen to sex educators you would think condom is a safe and effective way to prevent pregnancy and STDs.

Everyday sex education classes promote condoms as a means of safe sex or at least safer sex. But the research on condoms provides no such guarantee. It's no longer news that condoms are only 87 percent effective in preventing pregnancy and 69 percent effective in reducing the risk of HIV infection. And according to a study in the 1992 Family Planning Perspectives, 15 percents of married couples who use condoms for birth control end up with an unplanned pregnancy within the first year and 36 percent within the second year. Again also, I posted on my facebook wall few months ago about a guy who called me he was at one of our event early this year, where I spoke on SAFE SEX. He called and said, "I started having sex at 18 and now I'm 27, I just called to let you know that I agree with the fact that condoms are not safe; my three living kids and two aborted babies were all conceived while I was using condoms".

Then what is safe about birth control? 

  The only protection against Sexually transmitted diseases is living the abstinence lifestyle 

 You can get pregnant or catch Sexually transmitted infections the very first time you have sex, even if you use protection 

 Nobody has ever died from not having sex. I have yet to read the obituary section of the newspaper or an obituary bill which says "Gone Too soon, Matthew Adedoyin, 1987 – 2011, died of virginity. Yet there are young people dying because they bought into the lie that they can't be expected to control their sexual urge. 

 Sex is a progression. It doesn't just happen unless you are a victim of rape

 The more time you spend listening to music with sexually degrading lyrics, the more likely you are to initiate intercourse and other sexual activities. Finally, the best motivational and inspirational book I've ever read – The bible stated it clear that our body is the temple of the living God. Therefore It must not be defiled which means Pre – Marital Sex (Fornication) and Extra – Marital Sex (Adultery) is not just sin against God, it is also a sin against your body.  

 Thanks. 

 Stay Chaste. 

'Abstinence lifestyle pays' It keeps you from safe STDs, unwanted pregnancy, emotional and psychological trauma, problems, bruised ego, broken heart, abortion etc] 

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Do You Know the Difference Between Love and Sex?

Are you tired of relationships that don't work? Do you long
to find that special person you really connect with and have the kind of sexual intimacy that you've always dreamed of?
I want you to know that it is possible. God even has a plan
for this -- and the key to experiencing His plan is to know
the difference between love and sex.
Hollywood and the media inundate us daily with messages telling us that love and sex are the same. And many of us continue to believe the lies that sex outside of marriage is
okay if two people really love each other, or that lusting after images on the Internet is harmless and doesn't hurt anyone. But the truth is sex doesn't equal love and intimacy.
It's crucial that we know the difference between sex and
love, because if we don't, we're doomed to fail at both.
In Ephesians, chapter 5, its explained "how we're to have a relationship based on genuine love and authentic intimacy. Let's start off by saying: Follow God's example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. We are called to "walk in the way of
love" with one another. But what does walking in the "way of love" look like and how do we do it? Walking in love means being kind, giving, caring, sacrificial and unselfish toward others. This is the opposite of exploiting others for
our own personal gain and engaging in immoral sexual activity.
Then Paul tells us to avoid indulging in selfish and sexual immoral behavior: Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking,
which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the God's kingdom.
Notice that it's not just sexually immoral behavior that is prohibited, but also immoral speech such as "coarse joking" and "foolish talk." This is the kind of talk that makes light of sexual impurity.
God also wants us to know that even our thoughts matter.
Do you know that some of the most
important decisions we make every day revolve around what we allow in our minds and take into our hearts?
Therefore, we need to be aware that certain activities, people, or media can negatively influence our behavior and our thoughts.
So why does God make such a big deal out of sexual immorality? Sexual impurity – in our mind, speech, body and behavior – destroys relationships. And it destroys our relationship with God first.When there is sex with no marriage commitment, our capacity to be intimate and experience Gods love is diminished. When we're filled with shame and hypocrisy, it becomes nearly impossible to be authentic with God and experience His presence to the fullest. This breaks His heart because He wants to be close with us.
He also wants us to experience the most amazing love and intimacy in a relationship with another person. And He wants us to know that love is about commitment, and sex is a gift that we open His way with the right person, in the right time, and in the right way.
So now I'd like to offer a word of hope, wherever you're at today. Whether you're single, dating or married, you've blown it in past relationships and still feel a lot of regret and shame, or you're struggling with sexual immorality right now, I want you to know that God is not down on you. Forgiveness and restoration is available. God loves you and is inviting you to respond - to repent and deal with the issues before you.Chip Ingram, Teaching Pastor
Living on the Edge
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Tackling the issue of Self-induced Sex- "masturbation" (Part One)

Several young people battle with masturbation. Masturbation is sometimes substituted for sex these days and it's gradually destroying lives. Many young people want to desist from sexual immorality, but end up masturbating. Most people enjoy it, but really want to break loose from the act because deep within, they believe they are not doing something right.

Funmibi Ojo Analysed how best to tackle the issue.

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