Though many won't want to share publicly in a discussion about sex, but we decided to discuss a subject which is capable of creating or destroying life.
This excerpts contains insightful sex facts extracted from the tweet meeting and should be applied in your everyday life
With Reference to the works
of:
-Young
people can build strong relationship without romantically getting involved:
know the boundaries.
Conquering
tactics to young people who have lost their dignity along the line?
Tweet Meeting which held on Twitter on 5th Saturday, October, 2013.
Time: 3PM -5:45pm, Twitter
Topic: Sexuality and You. Hashtag: #SAY
Host Handle @stoneorigin, Contributing Handles:
@PsalmuelOtiz @femijinadu @Bsmithzzy
@martinsbusuyi @TaiwoOlayinka and lots more.
Objectives of the Tweet
meeting
-To tackle Youthful
exuberance
-Expose youths to the deep
understanding of sexuality
-To a reasonable extent, cub
promiscuity.
Contributing Guests
-Samuel Isichei- C.E.O The
Mahomet Centre
-Martins Olusakin- Founder
Cornerstone Youth Development Centre.
-Oladipo Olatunbosun- On-Air personality (OAP) EkoFm
-Olayinka Taiwo- Uncommon
Man Network and PinNigeria
-Jide Jinadu-A Project Director
in Re-drive Naija
-Taire Stephen, Dr.D.K Olukoya, Praise Fowowe and Miracle Ihuoma.
-Sex is good and is of God.
But it’s been thoroughly abused by mankind.
-The natural man has a
strong need for sex because he sees it as a way of validating his maleness or
manliness, which is not right.
-Sex is designed to promote
God's divine purpose for mankind and a special undiluted intimacy for a man and
his wife.
-For a truly Godly and
fulfilling relationship to evolve, only true love and helping your partner in purpose
discovery is needed.
-Sex somehow makes the
natural man feel like a man, which isn’t necessary.
-Getting into a relationship
based on sexual energy alone will not last
-A relationship built on raw
sex energy is a relationship built on lust and it will not last.
-Misinformation or lack of
adequate information on sex has unfortunately led too many single and married
make harmful choices.
-The reason your sex life is
not news now is because you are not yet a news, when you become a news, your sex life will also become a news.
-Great and powerful men have
been brought down to their knee by the power of sex
-So much mystery have been
shrouded on the subject of sex
-The natural or canal man is
notorious for his desire to conquer women he finds attractive through sex.
-And as we all know, the sex
urge is the strongest urge in human nature. It has built men and it has
destroyed men. It has sent many to hell and it has brought many into this
world.
-It was also sex that resulted to one of the
deadliest diseases we have-HIV/AIDS.
-Sex management needs to be
taught because if you cannot manage your sex life, you still have a long way to
go.
-Mike’s blow used to weigh
50kg until he raped a lady and was sent to prison and by the time he came out
was no longer as fit as he used to be. That was when he resorted to using his teeth
instead of his fists-‘he lost a career.
-Tiger Woods almost lost his
career because of a non-mastery of his sex life, he was the richest sports man
before the scandal but fell to about the fourth on the list but thank God he is
back. Nevertheless,
-Many more people who have had
their destiny destroyed because of this three letter word-SEX.
-I’m also very sure that you
know at least two people that would have had better lives if not for premarital
or extramarital sex.
-If there is no other reason
to stay sexually pure, do it because of your destiny; because your destiny is greater than your present,
your destiny is bigger than you.
-“He that does not have control over his/her
sex life is like broken wall. He should not expect to be protected against
failure”
-“Just a little kiss, a
little touch, a little holding of hands to hug so shall sex come unto you like
a bandit and promiscuity as an armed man”.
-How can a rule of a
relationship state that ‘we can do every other thing except sex’? If you don’t
want to play why do the fore-play.
-Friendship is a strong and
desirable quality for any relationship. So would you sleep with a friend you're
not married to?
-Advice to MEN: Do not follow the direction of
your erection.
-The journey of a thousand
miles begins with a step, therefore the journey of sex, does not begin with
sex, it begins with a kiss, a peck, a hug.
-How can you say you don’t
want to hear noise yet you are heading to the market, so also how can you say
you don’t want to have sex yet you are kissing and smooching. Let’s stop deceiving
our selves.
-You can have a better sex
life by working on improving yourself and inculcating the right believes.
PROMINENT SEX LIES- DO NOT
BELIEVE THESE STATEMENTS
-It's not cool to be a
virgin
-Every one is having sex, so
you should too.
-A man cannot love you
except you must have sex with him first.
-You can sleep with anyone
once you love them
-When a man sleeps with u,
he will eventually marry you.
-If you don't sleep with your
boyfriend, he will get sick
-Sex will make a man love
you more
-Just once won't get you
pregnant
-You need to test your
partner first to be sure you are sexually compatible.
-If you're an adult and
still a virgin, you are not normal
-Condoms are 100% effective
-The more sexual partners
you have, the more of a man or woman you become. These are all lies.
-The sexual urge is natural
and should not be controlled
-Kissing and smooching is
like taking a bus from Lagos to Abuja, Lagos is kiss and romance while Abuja is
sex, and Lagos is the departure point while Abuja (sex) is the destination. Why
enter the bus of where you are not going. Come down (Alight!).
-When a guy kisses you, he
has conquered your lips, when he touches your breast he has conquered your breast,
when he romances your body he has conquered your body”.
-The day a building falls is
not the day it started falling! The day you had or have sex is not the day you
fell, you actually started falling when you began to give room for kiss &
romance.
-You are not stronger than
Samson , you are not wiser than Solomon, and you are not as brave as David
Jesse. Run for your dear life!
-The journey to sex
addiction starts with some minutes of kiss and romance. The best time to stop a
thief is when he is at the gate not when he has entered your bed room”. Be
wise!
-Many guys don’t want to
date anyone who has children, who blames them for not wanting to deal with the
excessive baggage?
-Do not use of Birth
control: but people can and do end up pregnant even with birth control, you
won’t believe.
-Also, something else to
think about STD’s like AIDS is very real.
-Please people think long
and hard before you do something that will have an affect on the rest of your
life.
-Have the strength to listen
to God, listen to your heart and say “NO.”
-Somehow, our peers always
seem to have some influence on us. Be careful of friends you keep.
-Premarital sex is dangerous
and should be discouraged as it tends to inflict lifelong wounds on our psyche
and self worth.
-Sex is not in itself a sin.
It’s the abuse of sex that is sin.
-Sex can sometimes get in
the way and cause people to stay together who perhaps should be apart.
-Don’t engage in sex before
marriage.
-Pre-marital Sex is a veil
that can blindfold your sight.
-When you are involved
sexually with a man or woman, you will not really know him. You will only know
him/her in flesh
-A reasonable amount of all
marital problems are caused by sex before marriage.
-Pre marital sex is the pollution satan has
brought to join wrong persons together, so as to mess up their lives.
-Premarital sex can put a
person in bondage.
-The word says, “He that
honors me, will I honor, marriage is honorable to all. So He will only honor
you with marriage if you honor His temple.
-It is only a mad man that
does the same thing, and expects a different result. Sex before marriage not
only destroys, it does not build.
-Most women say they can
only sleep with a man they Love....Love or No love, maintain sexual purity
please.
-Women seem to be more aware
of some sort of soul tie with a man they’ve slept with even if the relationship
doesn't end well.
-Women tend to expect some sort of deep
emotional commitment fro a man after sexual act.
-The fact that a man sleeps
with you doesn't automatically means he loves you.
-Also the fact that a man
doesn't sleep with you doesn't automatically means he doesn't loves you.
-There are some passionate
men who give their all into whatever they do and they start well but after some
time they delve into women and become stagnated.
-Can you honestly assess
yourself and make a list of your own traits and tendencies.
-Masturbation is like every
other sin. No sin is greater than another.
-The solution to a sinful
addiction/lifestyle (masturbation inclusive) is the RENEWING OF THE MIND
-Though you don't look,
feel, and act like it yet, the truth is you've been clothed with righteousness
and given the Spirit as the power over sin.
-And the devil's only tool
against people is IGNORANCE!
-Please realise that it's
possible to read the bible now and still sin later, but don't give up. Pick it
up again and continue. You will definitely develop the strength to say no
later.
-I truly believe that it is not
too late to stop having sex and become born again.
-It is not too late to
change if you truly want to change. For 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, “Flee from
Sexual immorality.”
-Unless DESIRE for sin is killed totally, you
can't say no. And you must refuse any guilt, accusation, and condemnation. It's
not of God; it's the devil's weapon!
-Be transformed by the
renewing of your mind'. The mind is the seat of emotions, thoughts and feelings.
-Once the mind is renewed,
your thoughts, feelings and actions are all renewed at one
-Start today and no matter
how much it appears it's not working, continue. You will soon enjoy the fruits
of your labour.
-When you harbour your
weakness. Ur weakness can kill u. Every man has a weakness. Don’t allow your
weakness to destroy u. Destroy it. Don’t let the weakness destroy u.
-Are you struggling and
trying to overcome addictions on your own? Try talking to God. He'll respond.
-For a man to be able to
resist sexual temptation successfully, he will have to submit himself to God.
-Women should test a man's
declaration of love and wait till they are married, before giving in to him
sexually.
-Are
you struggling and trying to overcome addictions on your own? Try talking to
God. He'll respond.
-I
truly believe that it is not too late to stop Sexual immorality and become born
again. God'll accept you back.
-You
will definitely develop the strength to say no. put your body under subjection.
Q: When is the right time
for sex
A: In Marriage
Guests’
Contribution and Responses to Questions asked:
Martins
Olusakin, Samuel Isichei, Oladipo Bosun, Olayinka Taiwo and Jide Jinadu
-Sex
is beautiful in the context of marriage. So.... Wait for your time
-There
is a serious problem with what people call love (lust). People are now after
container and not content
-Know
ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye
have of God? (1 Cor 6:19)
-For
ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your
spirit, which are God’s." (1 Cor 6:20).
-When
the mind of a youth is idle and unproductive, wondering thought like that of
sex will come in and take control .
-I
beseech you, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a
living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, Rom 12:1
-We
need to bring back decency and high personal values back. One not based on
material phenomenons
-Sex
must not be the determining factor in any relationship
-Some
youths fall when they see a person's 'swag' which really is nothing cos this
days people have sex with People that have swag
-In
keeping people straight, society plays a very important role but when the
society itself fails in that regards young people are open to vices
-Sex
has become rampant today because society itself is and broken thus the children
been raised although smart are empty on the inside
-And
heaven know our music videos both local and international are not helping
matters
-People
should not be after container but content
-Renewing
the mind might not solve the issue of immorality. A complete and unequivocal
OVERHAUL self might! "The heart of
man...who can know it?
-The
carelessness at which people have sex is an indication of the value they place
on themselves. What valuedo you place on yourself.
-Also
we must understand that sex is both a personal and social issue
-And
truth be told. The mind duels on sex every time because it’s not put to good
use.
-I
think that the rate of sexual exuberance of today is a sign that deep down most
young people need
a
good way to de-mystify sex, because truth be told it’s an everyday thing and it
needs to be de-mystified ASAP
-What's
the purpose of sex and what options are available for those that are already
active #SAY
-Be
steadfast, Put your body under subjection, Cherish your body as much as you
cherish your life. Most importantly fear God.
-
Although discussions on these issues abound everywhere, yet no visible change.
What then will you suggest we do?
-And
heaven know our music videos both local and international are not helping
matters cos you can literarily get high off them.
-To
enable youths maintain sexual purity, Let's begin by making Sexual Purity
attractive.
-Not
just purity let's start with a simple discussion that encapsulates the whole
issues. Discussions on these issues abound everywhere, yet no visible change.
What then will you suggest we do?
-We
Keep preaching even if it’s just a soul that gets it right.
-I
believe its 2 occupy d mind wt other positive things
-Youths
should re-channel their energy into positive things, because truth be told, the
path that our young people are treading today calls for concern.
-Achievement
is not equal to SEX
-Acceptance
is the first step. Once you accept then you will be eager to learn.
-Sexual
purity can be maintain by not exposing youths to information like LOVE is not
SEX.
-Sexual
purity is what you cultivate every day.
-A
youth must first understand his purpose here on earth. By asking basic
questions like who am I? Why am I here?
-Sexuality
/ sex education is very important especially now
-Youth
need to understand their identity before the stage of exploration which is
always at the adolescent stage.
Recommendation
and Conclusion
NGOZI
Ijimakinwa @Ngoziestherkalu, Producer, Divas Dynasty added that Media is a
strong force in misleading young people.
Youths
need to ask themselves these vital questions:
-How
rich is their knowledge on relationship and where did they learn it from?
-When
you are in relationship where and what are those things do you engage yourself
in?
*Don’t get intimidated any longer. Though
we are in a generation that discriminates against those that are not as
sexually as majority are.
*Purpose
gives life a meaning, Focus and direction. When a youth understands this,
Youthful exuberance is taken care of.
*Information
is key! It’s quite obvious youths are lacking in that respect. Stone Origin is providing them with this
platform. Adequate insight in teaching you how best to live your life.
*It
is not too late to change if you truly want to change. For 1 Corinthians 6:18
says, “Flee from Sexual immorality.”
*Acceptance
is the first step. Once you accept then you will be eager to learn.
*When
you are in relationship where and what are those things do you engage yourself
in
* Youths
need to understand their identity before the stage of exploration which is
always at the adolescent stage.
Samuel
Isichei’s Recommendation: We need to bring back decency and high personal values
back. One not based on material phenomenons.
Oladipo
Olatunbosun’s Recommendation: This might sound absurd. These days where Zip Up
is the new slang, here is my take. TO HELL WITH CONDOMS. Abstain.
Olusakin
Martins’ Recommendation: I advice young people to be sexually pure as I AM!
Your partner will trust u, posterity will pay u and God will reward u.
Taiwo
Olayinka’s Recommendation: Youths should avoid idleness and seek to discover
who they are so that they can achieve more in life.
Ijimakinwa
Ngozi’s Recommendation: For youths to
maintain sexual purity, youths should occupy their mind with other positive
thing.
Jinadu
Jide’s Recommendation: Sexuality must not be pushed aside.
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