The life and the perception of the person you spend most of your time with on certain issues to a large extent can affect you, especially people that you have placed over your life.
I have seen certain leaders from certain organizations live very sexually promiscuous lives such that you want to think sex is a culture within the organization. As a matter of fact, each time a lady tells me she is engaged to someone within that system my antenna comes alive because they have proven me right over and over again. I took time out to study the system and I realised that sex isn't a big deal to their leader.
I have had to detach from a few people I used to be mentored by because of the things I saw when I first started out which almost influenced me. Because when your mentor begins to talk about illicit sex as if it is not a big deal and as if you have immunity over the effect of falling into sexual sins you could have your sanity messed up as a young leader. I have had mentors that would challenge your purity and hold you to very high moral standards and I have had others who talk loosely and can make you think God doesn't see anything wrong with sexual compromises. Beware of lewd jokes and illicit gossips that can corrupt your right spirit. It is sometimes better to relate with people from afar than get close.
There are times that your mentor is not even guilty of sexual sins but his positioning of himself in a questionable manner can affect your perception and put you in trouble. What lessons would you have learnt from a mentor who allows his female protégée to massage him alone in his room or even pass the night on his bed? How does he expect you to believe nothing happened?
Whose perception is influencing your sexual behaviors?
May God preserve you and take you away from influences that can mess up your perception.
For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror most mornings and asked myself: 'If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?' And whenever the answer has been 'No' for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
One major thing I have noticed with many leaders is the quest to improve others and get the best out of them. Their high work rate and success rate can become so intimidating that most times they become surrounded by vulnerable people and other times, sycophants who depend on them thereby finding it so hard to tell them the truth. It is so sad that when leaders begin to exhibit negative traits
followers especially in the religious circles rationalize or overlook it because the gifts has overshadowed the character. Forgetting that vocal authority may not stand the test of time without moral authority.
When was the last time you looked into the mirror as a leader and you were honest with yourself? Are you really the same person everyone is celebrating or you are just a spider-man whose words don't align with his life?
It is always good to look into the mirror and accurately assess yourself with a view to finding the areas you need to improve or work on especially with respect to your sexuality. An
average leader struggles with their sexuality simply because that is one aspect of us we hate to face the truth about. So, many live in denial until a scandal that is preventable happens.
About The Author
Praise Fowowe is a Sexuality and Family Life coach. He tweets via @praisefowowe
Curled From: vinemag.com
We Learn everyday. There are situations where by you need someone to mentor you and as a lady, the mentor tries taking advantage of you. Realise that the mentor is also human and has these human tendencies for lust. He being established and probably well known doesn't make him a saint. If your mentor is trying to step beyond his boundaries, Run.....
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